PayPal founder Peter Thiel actually pays $ 100,000 to a couple dozens of young people to drop out of college. In an interview with ABC, Thiel said that while colleges provide excellent learning opportunities, they actually drive people into monstrous debts. And recently, he even founded a very controversial project, in which college students get considerable amounts of money so that they drop out of their studies and put their innovative ideas and business projects into practice. While Til pays a lot of money to 24 former students so that nothing would stop them in the pursuit of success and a dream, all the other college students did not even dream of such golden mountains. If you don’t have support in the form of grants from Peter Thiel, but you still decided to try your luck and turn a university student off the beaten track, read this article and familiarize yourself with the arguments that you can make when trying to defend your point of view and your choice.
What to do to those who did not enter the university. We consider evening, correspondence and paid departments and colleges.
Summer is the time of entrance exams to universities, the time of serious tests - both for the availability of knowledge that allows you to become a student, and in terms of the ability to "hold the blow." If we summarize both of the above components, we can say easier: summer is the time for exams for readiness for adulthood
Many of the current entrants will soon become students, with which we wholeheartedly congratulate them. But today I would like to talk with those who were unlucky, for the first time unlucky in an adult way - with those who did not pass through the competition. Of course, the first misfire in life hurts one’s self-esteem and self-confidence, but this test must be passed in the first place so as not to break one’s own life. Do not despair and consider entering a university as a matter of universal proportions. It is necessary to analyze your mistakes and outline new ways to achieve your goal. For this reason, the article is addressed not only to applicants who did not master the exams this year, but also to those who are just preparing for admission, as well as their parents.
Do no harm!
No, we are not about the postulate of future doctors - we are about the internal mood of failed applicants and their parents.
No one encourages young people to go to entrance exams with a decadent mood and prepare themselves in advance for failure. No, the mood should be the most positive, if, of course, there are good reasons for it. But to keep at the subconscious level the idea that the exam is a kind of lottery and different outcomes are possible is worth it! And if you don’t even succeed in doing it the first time, you won’t be discouraged, do not give up, but will be able to correctly analyze the mistakes made in order to correct them.
In the context of the foregoing, I would also like to appeal to parents whose “bleeding spots” failed at the opening. The only help that is required from you is calm participation with complete non-intervention. Refuse the stereotypes of twenty years ago - they are hopelessly outdated and do not correspond to modern realities. Judge for yourself: a couple of decades ago in our country, the state itself was the only employer. Employment issues were strictly regulated, as a result of which penetration (mind you, not mastering a specialty, namely penetration) into many professions was achieved only through obtaining diplomas from strictly defined universities. This made entering one or another higher educational institution crucial. Nowadays, many employers no longer attach such importance to the presence of a candidate with a diploma of one or another sample of a specialized university. Look around: are there really no successful managers with diplomas of teachers or successful entrepreneurs who graduated from universities with a humanitarian orientation among your friends? The employer today perfectly understands that the required product is created by living people, not diplomas, which can be completely mediocre subjects. “The main thing is to get involved in the battle. »You should not consider the foregoing as a path to a worthy, but retreat. These are possible options for correcting the situation, which means moving forward.
No one forbids a young person who has not entered full-time full-time study to apply for. full-time full-time university, exams which take place later. If, however, the entrants are not consoled, they should keep track of the evening or correspondence department of the same university where they entered the full-time course. Those who received “failure” in the exam, of course, will have to take the exams again, but those who do not get the points can simply go to the same university, to the same faculty, but to another department by transfer. Here is a special conversation with parents .. If your entrant clearly does not reach the passing score, don’t panic, get into rage and despair and “break off the song at a glance” - say, don’t go to the exam tomorrow, and it’s clear that you’re not going anywhere , you’re a fool, you won’t do it. Damaging position. Give the offspring to fight to the end. Even if he doesn’t get to the “evening” or to the “correspondence” even with the points he has earned, it’s never a sin to practice. Quietly wait until the end of the tests - it will already become clear there: are there enough points or will you have to take exams again.
Many parents with the phrase "evening (and even more so - correspondence) department" squeamishly bend their lips. They are sure that they give an “inferior” education there. Deep delusion! Yes, the program there is more concise, which does not mean its inferiority - it’s just the quintessence of what is taught in the daytime. Moreover, studying in the evening or correspondence department, the student will be able to work in the chosen field in parallel, respectively, and become, by the time he graduates, not only a theorist, but also a real practitioner. Psychologists have repeatedly emphasized the fact that it is extremely useful for home, "greenhouse" children, which a priori are the majority of applicants, to be in the company of serious, working fellow practitioners for a year or two - to gain experience, to be fed by vital energy. At the same time, no one takes away from your child the possibility, after completing one or two courses of the evening (correspondence) department, to switch to daytime and crown the already solid foundation of practical knowledge with theoretical delights.
Do not neglect such an option as a paid office. They exist now in all universities. It is clear that in this case the whole issue is the creditworthiness of the family. However, young people who are not eager to “rattle” into the army from the institute should also think about such an opportunity to obtain higher education. Fortunately, the system of educational loans is developing and strengthening every year.
The solution to the problem may also be admission to a paid department at another university. Of course, here the “newcomer” entrant will have a little more difficulty than the one who has entered, but has not received. We have to go through testing and interviews. However, this option is valuable in that, having made a fundamental decision to study for money, a young person will be able to choose a much more "eminent" university than the one to which the initial choice fell. Suppose an applicant enters the budget place of a full-time department, therefore, he chose a university with a small competition and, as a result, a low passing score. Misfire. Will have to pay. The cost of training is approximately the same. A direct reason to go to a university that provides better training. Eichara, who will accept the young specialist for work, does not care in which department - budget or paid - he studied. But the reputation of the university can play a role.
1. Do not be upset
People make mistakes - this is normal. Life consists not only of a series of achievements. Perhaps, each person will have approximately the same number of victories and a fiasco. The thing is how you overcome the difficulties that adults have to face daily. Failure alone does not make anyone a "loser" or an "outcast." Whether you entered or not entered a university is your own business, and each person is himself a blacksmith of his own happiness.
The story of Philip Schulz has become perhaps one of the classic examples of how to survive difficulties. As a child, he suffered from dyslexia and studied in a class for children with slow development. The boy’s desire to become a teacher’s writer was not taken seriously. Once, the teacher laughed at the lesson right in his face when she heard about his dream. But Schultz did not give up and stubbornly walked towards his goal, because he really wanted to. At the cost of hard work, Philip nevertheless became a poet. At some point, he realizes that most of his works are based on life failures. Therefore, he writes the poem “Failure” and publishes the eponymous collection of poems, which in 2008 won the Pulitzer Prize - the most authoritative award in the field of journalism and art.
Another example is Joan Rowling. In 2008, the author of a series of books about Harry Potter spoke to students at Harvard University, in which she told the whole truth about how badly the setbacks affected her self-identity.
“Failures helped me get rid of the unimportant - I stopped pretending to be someone I am not, and sent energy to the only thing that mattered to me. the stone bottom that I reached became a solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life. " Joanne Rowling
Her words are confirmed by psychologist and professor at New York University Jonathan Heidt. “People need adversity, failure and even trauma to achieve the highest level of strength, self-realization and personal development,” he writes in his book “The Happiness Hypothesis” (“Hypothesis of happiness”).
Education and profession right away!
Another option for translating dreams of cherished education is to go to college. It is no secret that now many universities have colleges in their structure, in which initial vocational training is carried out on the profile of the university. So, for example, Moscow State University of Printing Arts has a Printing College. pioneer Ivan Fedorov, where future printing workers learn the basics of the profession under the guidance of teachers of the "mother" university. That is, we are again talking about serious practical training, at the end of which a young person can easily enter the second (or even third!) Course of a university that had once rejected him. Here even sometimes it is possible to save a year. For this, however, it is necessary to go to college not after the graduation class of the school, but at the end of nine years. In addition, college exams usually continue until the end of August. But remember that in different educational institutions the deadlines for submitting documents and exams may vary, you need to know about this in advance.
And the last one. Almost every Moscow university holds the so-called Entrant Days. For example, in Moscow State University this event is held monthly. At the day of the applicant you can get information about preparatory courses, pre-university preparation, entrance exams and admission to a university or college (if there is one at an educational institution), ask all the questions of interest to representatives of the information department or admissions committee.
2. Pull yourself together
According to a recent study published in the Journal of Consumer Research, self-acceptance is the most effective strategy for dealing with failure. Perceiving yourself as you are, with all your strengths and weaknesses, greatly simplifies the process of experiencing failures. Psychologists also believe that this is one of the features of a mature personality.
If you can accept that you did not enter the university, just as a fact, this will be the first step to self-acceptance and growing up. Stopping scolding yourself can be hard, but think about how effective it is. From the fact that you once again curse yourself, nothing will change. But if you stop suffering and outline an action plan for the next few months - it is likely that yes, albeit not immediately.
3. Talk with loved ones
The closest people to any young man are his parents. Do not be afraid to talk heart to heart with them. It’s unlikely that they will scold you, since the situation cannot be changed in words, and why come back to it and discuss it again and again is useless. Your mom and dad can always suggest and help something, since they sincerely love you. The family was created for that, in which case, to be a reliable rear and support. Together you can figure out what to do next.
4. Submit documents to college
After college, you can go to college in the same direction that you studied earlier. In this case, you do not need to pass the exam, admission to the 1st course will occur according to the results of entrance examinations of the university. And after you become a student, there is an opportunity to switch to shortened education.
When choosing a college, we recommend that you pay attention to the feedback of students and graduates, do not hesitate to talk with them. In most cases, they will tell you in detail about the advantages and disadvantages of an organization. You can also learn about life in it on open days or in its groups on social networks. Do not be afraid to ask questions and clarify the information you need, such as having a student newspaper or organizing a practice - this will help you make your choice.
5. Join the army
If a young man is 18 years old, and he is not a student of an educational organization that provides deferment, and he has no contraindications for health or other reasons for exemption from service, then he will not leave the army. In this situation, you should not pre-configure the young man that life will radically change, and childhood is far behind. Let him come to this conclusion himself after talking with those who serve, or have already served. This will help the conscript to make his own picture and mentally prepare for new duties.
Of course, parents, as a rule, are reluctant to part with their child, but do not exaggerate the significance of this situation. At the moment, the service lasts only a year, and the implementation of economic work is shifted from the military to civilian structures. Free time, young people are engaged in combat training. Yes, it will not be easy in the army, but this is a real school of life, which a young man can be useful to pass.
6. Travel to another country
In the West, many future applicants willingly take the so-called gap year (“year of a break”) to take a break from study and travel (as a rule, they volunteer). It is believed that this allows you to learn more about the world around you, grow up and begin to be more conscious about getting an education. Only a very small percentage of young people who know English well and are prone to adventurism do this in Russia. In addition, it is unlikely that parents will be happy if their son or daughter suddenly wants to work as a waiter in an Icelandic restaurant or pick cotton in South Africa. But who said that this should be done over a long period of time? Even one trip can change your worldview and expand your horizons of perception. Well, if the financial situation allows you to just go abroad. But if you don’t have such an opportunity, it’s okay, because now there are so many options for volunteering or temporary work abroad. Do not be too lazy to only study the conditions of the offer, as well as the features of a particular country - climate, culture, legislation.
If you have not entered a university, this does not mean that you have already unlearned yours. Life is wide and full of opportunities that you only need to be able to see, and set goals, learn new things and develop - that’s really wonderful. In addition, it will help you grow professionally. Read books for which there was no time because of preparation for the USE, attend lectures and conversation clubs, take several online courses (now there are many free options), meet interesting people who are likely to share their experience with you, less be sad and think more that the whole world is open before you.
No one bothers to combine self-development and wage labor. Moreover, if you have a good experience, you will grow up in the eyes of the employer and without a diploma of higher education. It is clear that a newcomer will be taken only to positions that do not require high qualifications, but even great people began with the basics. And any such position is a chance to get the first work experience and become more independent from parents financially. Being a waiter, promoter or, say, a call center specialist, you can hardly afford to buy the latest model of the most sophisticated smartphone, but to get pocket money or save up for an inexpensive trip or courses is quite real. А дальше, если вы хорошо себя проявите, не за горами и повышение.
9. Попробовать поступить в следующем году
Нельзя отрицать тот факт, что для некоторых работодателей очень важно, есть ли у вас высшее образование или нет. Да и родители тоже порой бывают крайне настойчивы в том, чтобы их сын или дочь поступил в вуз. Что же делать в такой ситуации? Подумайте о том, кем бы вы хотели работать и что для этого нужно. Почитайте биографии людей, ставших успешными в этой отрасли, задайте вопросы состоявшимся специалистам на форумах или в соцсетях. Do they have higher education? If so, which one? If you understand that you can’t do without a university, start preparing for the exam in advance and don’t panic. You may not believe it, but passing the entrance tests for the second time is much easier and not as exciting as immediately after grade 11. You already have experience of failure, which tells you that life does not depend so much on exam results, and there are always alternatives. The main thing is never to despair and not give up.