Of course, if a certain girl arouses your sympathy, and you hope for reciprocal feelings, then tell her about it, show in some way or hint. It is generally accepted that men often take the first step in expressing their feelings. Not all girls are ready to take the initiative in this regard, so even if you like a person who attracts you, you may not even know about it until you yourself indicate your position in relation to her.
It should be understood that many girls from childhood were brought up in such a way that it is unacceptable for them to be the first to show their sympathy to a guy. Perhaps she believes that this act will not put itself in the best light, because "decent girls are not imposed." It may be that she had a negative experience in her school years - she showed her sympathy, but did not get it in response. In any case, if you want to know exactly if you have a chance to build a relationship with this girl, you should make her understand that she is not indifferent to you. How best to do this, you can determine for yourself. Of course, the character of the girl, the duration of the meeting, and many other factors matter.
Moreover, it is important to remember that girls love determined guys, so even if she initially did not consider you as a potential partner, your recognition may make her look at you from a completely different perspective.
How to tell a girl about your feelings
When you are very afraid to admit
If you are afraid to admit your feelings and still can not do anything with this fear, then, apparently, you are completely not sure how exactly the girl treats you. In this case, you should get close to her in order to learn more about her, and understand what are your chances of being together. The process of rapprochement is better not to delay, so as not to move into the friend zone.
What you need to do for this:
- Be attentive to her - listen to what she is talking about, ask leading questions.
- Take an interest in what she does in her free time, what her mood is, whether everything is in order with her - be sympathetic.
- Try to cheer up her more often - with the help of jokes, smiles and so on.
- Show interest in her personality - what she likes and what not, what films she can recommend for watching and so on.
When she is your girlfriend
Remember, loving couples often form friendship unions - perhaps the same thing will happen in your case! Many girls secretly in love with their friends, but often try to overcome this feeling, fearing that it will be non-reciprocal and in the end they will lose each other. However, even if this is not so, your chances are very high, because if the girl is friends with you, then at least you are pleasant to her. You can start moving to the point by simply starting a conversation that she generally thinks about the friendship between a man and a woman, how frequent this is in her opinion, and how good couples are obtained as a result of drawing together such friends.
It is worth noting that in fact such unions are often stronger than others. Many people strike up relationships without really knowing each other, and then break up because of the “surprises” that have opened up to them. Friends, in turn, are, as a rule, already well aware of each other’s not best sides, and they have already entered into romantic relationships consciously.
When she loves another guy
The situation is rather complicated and with too harsh actions you can only do much harm. First, try to understand what kind of relationship binds the girl and her lover. If they are not a couple or he does not treat her very well in a relationship, because of which she suffers, then your chances are very high. Try to be near her as often as possible, showing your obvious advantages over the object of her sympathy. Be attentive to her, take an interest in her affairs, make surprises without hinting at a serious relationship. Most likely, if she will receive more attention from you than from the guy who originally interested her, her interest will be redirected to you.
When she said she likes me
In this case, the easiest way to act, because the girl has already given you a "green light". If you did not immediately orient, and did not admit reciprocal sympathy, then do not postpone this matter for later. Call her, write or invite to meet, admitting that you also like her a lot.
Compliments about her taste and figure
Every girl loves compliments, even if she does not admit it. Usually girls are attentive to the choice of their clothes, hairstyles, and you can pay her attention to the fact that you notice this and admire her taste. For example, you can say that she has a funny T-shirt, a very beautiful dress, shiny hair, cool jeans and the like. As a rule, girls like these words. Many representatives of the fair sex believe that they have a special eye color, and even if you do not even polish, still give the girl a compliment on this subject: "You have such a beautiful and interesting eye color." Make some comparison. If your eyes are green, then say that they have an emerald sheen, if blue - compare with the boundless sea, yellow - with a cat's eye, gray - with an alarming sky, on the eve of rain (specify that you like rain).
It is also important to note that many girls doubt their figure. however, your chosen one is happy with her, the confirmation of her thoughts will only please her. A very thin girl does not need to say: “Oh, you need to eat more, otherwise it will blow away”, instead say: “You are so fragile as Thumbelina! I like!". If a girl is inclined to be overweight, then on occasion, note that she has a perfect figure. If a girl often goes to the gym, say that this is noticeable, adding: "Probably the guys are turning their heads."
Flowers and commonplace amenities
Probably all girls love flowers, and if someone does not like bouquets, it is only because they prefer flowers in pots rather than cut flowers. Although someone on the contrary loves bouquets, not finding time and great traction in the move for domestic plants. However, most likely you will find out about this circumstance after handing the flowers, if you do not in passing take an interest in this in advance. Girls also love various goodies - find out about her tastes in person or in person, or by looking at a page on a social network (often you can determine by profile what exactly a person likes).
Write poems with a hint of love
If you do not have confidence in your own poetic abilities, then it is better to find the work of some classic - Asadov, Yesenin, Pushkin, Rozhdestvensky and so on. Let there be no more explicit declarations of love, but the topic should be close to that. You can send her the work by personal message in SMS or a social network, commenting that today you caught your eye and really liked it. At a minimum, the girl will consider that romance is not alien to you.
Invitation to the cinema or for a cup of coffee
This is already a very radical step, and if in previous cases the girl may still doubt your sympathy, then after such an invitation even the most unsuspecting person will suspect that you like her. Choose a cozy coffee shop where you can easily talk. If you are still not sure that because of the feelings that have gripped you, you can conduct a free conversation, then it is better to choose an art cafe where any music groups perform. You can also invite a girl to the cinema for an interesting premiere.
If you can’t decide to confess to a girl, although you assume that feelings can be mutual, then an SMS message can be a way out of the situation. For some girls, this option is even preferable because with “live” recognition, they are often lost and do not know how to react. In the case of a message, the girl will have the opportunity to think about her answer, and approach it carefully. However, subsequently, all important conversations with this girl, if you develop a relationship, it is better to conduct personally, so that she does not have the impression that you are afraid of any serious topics.
Help the girl without hinting at anything in return. Do this as if in passing, as if you had done it for a close relative or friend. Help can be very different. Perhaps she’s late somewhere, and you have the opportunity to give her a lift. It is possible that she has problems with the laptop, and you could repair it and so on.
Let her know that she is the best
This can be done by commenting, for example, on some star (it is better to avoid comparisons with real acquaintances, if they are not the obvious enemies of the girl). For example, she is delighted with some actress - note that you will not understand what she found in her. if she is much more beautiful. Or, especially emphasize her advantages: “I have never met a girl who cooks so deliciously”, “You have perfect growth”, “Go crazy, what is your eye color”, “You are so graceful, you must have been doing ballet?” And things like that.
You can say “love” in other words or actions
There are many ways to show your beloved your feelings. If you have a meeting in the cold season, or you work together - grab a glass of her favorite hot drink for her. If he gets sick, offer to bring her medicine or give her fruits (you can also through a friend or courier): "Eat vitamins, get better." Also, with a courier, you can send a bouquet of flowers on any occasion or "Just for the mood." Do not hesitate - such actions are likely to be appreciated.
To gently hint at a relationship, you need
Explain why it is special and you need it
Make it clear that you do not just want a relationship with a girl, but that she is interested in you. Tell us what you like most about her, why you think your couple has a chance for a happy relationship. Tell her about when you first realized that you like him, what exactly you felt. Girls especially like these stories.
Show how a woman is dear to you
It happens that words are not always enough, and many women no longer take words seriously. Therefore, do not neglect actions that could show her your true attitude towards her. Many men have forgotten what it means to “look after” a woman, thereby increasing the “price” of those who still do this.
Bend her to the first kiss
Most women believe that the beginning of a serious relationship is the first date or declaration of love, and the first kiss. If you bring your meeting to the conclusion that it ends with the first kiss (you can do this by saying goodbye by spending your chosen one home), then you could completely get her to you.
Express the desire that you want to see her next
Some women do not understand the hints or do not want to take them seriously, for fear of getting into an awkward position. Usually we are talking about adults, busy women or business women who do not have time to “pick up” your signals. In this case, it is best to say directly about your feelings.
What to do if a girl refuses
In this situation, of course, you need to behave like a man - not arranging scenes, not insulting a girl and not joking about her later in the company of friends. If you behave with dignity in this situation, then perhaps the girl will look at you from a completely different perspective and will soon want to be with such a balanced guy herself. If she refused, then just say: “Well, then the topic is closed.” If you were on friendly terms before, then you don’t need to avoid it now, behave as if nothing had happened, and do not return to this topic even with hints until it itself initiates such a conversation. If you haven’t talked before, then just periodically congratulate her on the social network with Happy New Year, Birthday and March 8, for example. If she has an interest in you, she will somehow let you know.
1. What you tell her about your ex
You, perhaps, fleetingly mentioned in a conversation about your ex, whom you remembered simply because you went with her to the same restaurant in which you are sitting now. And your girlfriend, even if she doesn’t show it, will remember it and, most likely, will complain to her friends in order to conduct a psychological analysis on the topic “Does he still love her or not?” Therefore, be careful and once again do not pronounce the name of the former in vain, especially in a positive context.
2. About where you take her
Here she can share with her friends for two reasons: either complain, or, conversely, boast. If you invited her to the Burger King on your first date, then this will surely become a topic for ridicule in their conversation. By and large, the same applies to long-term relationships. No matter how much you are together, it matters to her where you rest. This does not have to be an expensive restaurant in which to wear formal dresses. This may be a place that is associated with pleasant memories or simply evokes positive emotions. For example, a park or the roof of a building. And about this pleasant moment, she, too, will hurry to tell her friends.
3. About your care
Sent a bouquet of flowers, cooked breakfast, a declaration of love and other romantic rubbish that you do for her, will certainly become an object of boasting to her friends. The idea that you love her is doubly pleasant for her if her friends still know about it.
4. About your embarrassment
Some stupid things that you yourself would be glad not to remember, she can tell her friends. Well, for example, how you got drunk last weekend and puke in the toilet all night, singing songs of Yegor Creed during the break. Why should she discuss this with her friends, it is not entirely clear. Either the girls laugh at something like this, or, on the contrary, they begin after that to discuss the problems of general alcoholism in the country, ending the conversation with tips on coding.
5. About your sexual fantasies
It is unlikely that you would begin to share your sexual fantasies with friends. But your girlfriend will do it, but with her own. Therefore, when telling her that you represent her in the image of Leia Organa, be careful. Especially if after that her friends begin to start strange talk about the Jedi swords.
6. About your member
We might be wondering why the girls describe in almost anatomical detail the genitals of the guys they slept with (to show off or vice versa). But, on the other hand, if you think about it, we are doing roughly the same thing when we tell friends about the “fifth size” of a friend we met on the weekend.
7. About how you talk with staff
It is unlikely that this is a mandatory topic for all the girls, but, as many of them assure them, they note for themselves how you communicate, for example, with the waiters during your visit to the restaurant. If you are unreasonably rude, then this will become the object of censure of the girl and her friends. If, on the contrary, you are smiling and friendly with the staff, this can become a fat plus in the column of your merits.
8. About how you stood up for her
Another pride for the girl, about which she will immediately tell her friends. If girls stopped reading fairy tales about brave knights, this does not mean that they stopped loving them. And this is not only about the use of physical force, if a drunken redneck pesters her. Any intercession is important for her, including when you protect her from verbal attacks of acquaintances or friends.
9. About your rudeness
In a relationship, things are not always going smoothly. Therefore, even if you are a reserved and polite person by nature, no one is safe from household rudeness on your part. In general, an insulting phrase or other manifestation of aggression addressed to a girl will be remembered by her and with a high degree of probability will be conveyed to her closest friends.