Lying is sometimes very useful, despite the fact that in childhood we were taught different. We will give you tips that will help to deceive any person, even the most experienced and savvy psychologically.
First, try to learn to recognize a liar. In most cases, experienced people are liars who themselves can diagnose a lie in almost any person. By examining how others pretend and say nothing, you can avoid the mistakes that expose deception. Some tricks will also help you with this.
Watch your body
Do not cross your arms. A closed posture indicates that you are not comfortable in the company of the person you are lying to. This is understandable at the level of reflexes - you do not need to be a psychology guru for this. Hands should be open. Those who are more advanced in psychoanalysis will even pay attention to hands hidden in their pockets. Another serious indicator of liars are palms wound behind the back. So children lie, but many retain this habit in adulthood.
Smile. Smile more. But not so often and frankly, to be like the Joker from the Batman movies. A smile should be restrained, and it is worth working on the look.
Look in the eyes. Do not look away - look into the eyes or face of a person, changing focus. This is a very important point that goes well with a smile.
Watch your voice. It is very important. When a person lies, he speaks very calmly and absolutely without emotion, because all the brain's resources are occupied with lies. You need to learn to speak with emotional color. The exception is the case when you speak without emotion always. It will be better to keep the habit.
Keep track of hand activity. You don’t need to fiddle with your hands - it will betray your nervousness. Do not play with jewelry, buttons, a tie and hair. The best way out is to hold a phone or something big like a paper folder.
Watch the position of the legs and body. Be as open as possible to the interlocutor. If your body and legs are pointing to the side, this will create some doubts about what you are saying. People feel that you are not comfortable when you are turned to them a little sideways.
No preludes and long monologues
Do not explain anything to anyone. If you want to lie, start doing it right away, without explanation or opening speeches. The shorter your speech, the better. Interlocutors will have less time to analyze how and what you are talking about.
Try to quickly say what the lion's share of untruth is. Speak clearly and clearly so that no one has questions that can drive you into a dead end.
Try to twist the truth
The more truth and irrefutable facts in deception, the easier it will be for you to control yourself, and more likely you will be believed. This means that the story must necessarily contain some points of support, which are difficult to refute.
For this reason, it is always worth composing a speech. Spontaneous lies are much more noticeable, but well-developed deception is more difficult to reveal. The reason lies in the brain. If you scrolled through speech and history many times in your head, then at the time of the story, the brain will perceive it as restoring the story from memory. Most skillful liars use this technique.
Trick as little as possible
There are situations in which you can tell the truth and stay in the saddle. It happens that a lie helps to get out of difficult situations without much energy. It is in such situations that it is worth lying.
The more often you lie, the stronger the attachment becomes. Not always the secret becomes apparent, but playing with fate is still not worth it. Good advice from inveterate liars - if you have been discovered, do not evade, play "fool". This will increase your chances of maintaining a positive reputation.
There are at least four situations in life when a lie will be good, because our life is so unpredictable that today deception can be a betrayal, and tomorrow it will be a panacea. Share with other readers your opinion on whether to lie and in which particular situation you can do it. and
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Sometimes lying to the truth can help you survive or just win poker. Never break the law or endanger yourself or others! Lying is a harmful activity that can hurt other people. But there are cases when a lie is quite appropriate and useful, and you can learn to lie beautifully, knowing about things that should be avoided, and also having practiced enough in this matter.